A LOT OF COUPLES FEEL THEY MARRIED WRONGLY - Rev. Fr. Ukwandu

The major source of crises currently ravaging marriages is the feeling by many married men and women that they married wrong persons.
Disclosing this while speaking as a guest lecturer during the Catholic Women Organization (CWO) of Surulere Deanery, Lagos, Couples' Day event held at St. Anthony's Catholic Church, Gbaja, Rev. Fr. Ukwandu arrested attention with his question, "Who is stronger: man or woman"?
According to the Rev. Fr.,  a lot of married men and women are regretting their marriages because each partner felt that he or she was the right person while the other partner was the wrong one in the relationship. " There is a stubborn feeling of you are not fit for me."
Delivering the thought provoking paper, the American trained Psychologist who is known his expert counseling in marriage matters, explained that men and women react differently at the same issue.
"Men," he said, " express emotions inwardly while women react to the same issue outwardly. They are both wired differently. Men are stimulated by what they see while women are stimulated by what they hear."
To maintain peace, love and unity in the family, Rev. Fr. Ukwandu therefore enjoined already married and those yet to marry to ask God to give them partners they would be free with. He observed that some marriages fail because the partners were not free to express themselves in the presence of the other.
He was of the opinion that today's women know their rights in marriage than those of the past generation. He advised couples to obey always the laws of marriage, stressing that the one major need of every women is affection while that of a man is respect. "Women need financial security. Don't marry if you don't have a job. Women love men who love their children.
"An African man doesn't want his wife to lead him, but a wise African woman can control her husband even from the rear. Make him feel important. Appreciate your husband. Bring out your best for him to enjoy. Be a treasure to him. Some partners are destiny destroyers. Once married, the family of the man expect less from him while that of the wife expects a lot from her," he disclosed.
In her own paper titled, " Sex and Power," Mrs. Barbara Odoh explained that everything we do in the world revolved around sex, power, affection, seduction, and others like that.
She said that people dress in order to attract the opposite sex, and to attract  power. Therefore laws of attraction, walking, talking are what keep life going.
According to her,women need to be touched at least twelve times in a day.
"There is no old woman in any woman when it comes to sex, just touch her." Men are not more unfaithful than women only that women are more clever and smarter when it comes to keeping secrets." She advised couples to see their wives and husbands as their first born.
Earlier, the Dean of the Deanery, Msrg Bernard Okodua prayed God to give couples grace to build Christian homes and raise up their children in Christian ways. He blessed the women and praised their efforts in making things happen in their homes, church and the in general.
In her opening remark, Princess Mrs Okojie Idemudia reiterated the need for the event which she explained was to reposition the women in championing the work of God. She assured all that since  God was involved that everything would go as planned, to the glory of God.
The event was fun packed. Everybody had a cause to smile and laugh. It was rib-cracking. From quiz competition, to fashion parade via cat walk for women, to couple's competition, it was awesome. Guests dined and wined, danced and celebrated their marriages, learnt how to keep their love aglow, sustain their marriages.
According to the Coordinator, the purpose was to raise over five million Naira to build a Catholic Women Organization of Nigeria Archdiocese Skill Acquisition Centre (CWONLASAC), put smiles on the faces of widwows, support Augustine University and actualization of retired priests' home in Lagos.
Surulere Deanery of the Lagos Archdiocese of the Catholic Church is made up of ten parishes. They include  St. Anthony's Catholic Church, Gbaja, St. Ann of Itire, St. Brigid of Itire, SS Mulumba and David of Lawanson, Regina Mundi of Mushin, CKC of Ilasamaja, Our Lady of Fathima of Aguda, Our Lady Queen of Apostle of Ilupeju, and Divine Physician and LUTH Chaplaincy of Idi-Araba. This is the first time such an event took place.